I wanted to start a new series on my blog where I write about going on dates with boys, haha. So, here it is! Going on Dates with Demi. Haha. Article post number one: The One I Met At The Coffee Shop.
Going on Dates with Demi
Summer is finally here and I have been dreading this semester since probably February, haha. This month was honestly quite fun yet stressful. My boyfriend and I split up, but it was kind of going down south anyway. I think we both mentally checked out months prior to the breakup. For me, I usually never post about my love life since I feel like it’s so difficult to keep up. Basically, a new guy every week because I can’t keep a guy around for that long. Haha just kidding. But on a serious note though, that is what sparked my interest in doing this new blog series.
So while I’m not sure how I want to go about this. Part of me wants to talk about all the bad dates I’ve gone on and talk about how they annoyed or offended me (I know some of them follow me) or if I should only speak of the good dates… Uhh, not sure, but I’ll just play this by ear and see how it goes. Also, what exactly constitutes a date? Yeah, not sure either. ? Oops.
I’ve been going to this local coffee shop quite often probably since the beginning of December when the fall semester ended. I love going to coffee shops. Just the vibe and atmosphere at coffee shops. Since school ended, there was this coffee shop I go pretty often on campus and since it was winter break, that meant shorter hours were being opened, so of course, I found a different place where I can sit and work on my blog stuff. I frequently saw this guy at the coffee shop and never really said anything to him since I just didn’t know… He seemed pretty old and a lot more mature, so it was like, “eh?”
Fast forward to months later, he sat across from me at the same table since it was so packed at the coffee shop. He introduced himself and it went something along the lines of:
Guy: Hey, mind if I sit here?
Demi: Umm sure.
Guy: I always see you here, haha. My name is ___, btw.
Guy: No, it’s ___.
Demi: Yeah, but my name is Demi.
Guy: Oh, I’m so sorry. Here I am correcting you on your name haha.
Demi: Haha, no worries.
I feel like I’m always so awkward. Haha, anyways, the next day, I saw him again but this time, at a co-working office space, Deskhub! Right when I saw him, I came up to him and said, “Hey! I didn’t know you go here too!” (Also, lol, I was wearing a really cute outfit but with sliders because I was too lazy to put on actual shoes so my outfit was whack). Turns out it was his first day checking out the office space. We ended up talking about the place and basically random stuff. He needed help printing something so he emailed me the PDF file of what he needed to be printed.
When I told him my email address, I told him that my email is info at demi bang dot com. He typed out info at Debbie and I said, “wait it’s Demi, not Debbie.” Then he said “oh I am so sorry, for the past 24 hours, I thought your name was Debbie” LOL. Awkward but not really since I get that a lot. After I printed out the stuff he needs to be printed, I had to leave, haha.
Two days later, I saw him at the coffee shop. He approached me and we basically talked for a minute since I had to rush homework due at midnight. Great. Haha. The next day, I was talking to one of my friends who’s been crushing over this guy for weeks now so I made a deal with her. I told her that if she asked that guy out, then I will ask this guy out as well. Nonetheless, I emailed him saying:
Hey! It was good seeing you yesterday. Sorry I couldn’t talk much, I had to rush an assignment that was due at midnight. Anyways, I don’t know if you’re seeing anyone or not, but I was wondering if you want to go out sometime this weekend?
I usually never ask a guy out but to encourage my friend to take the leap, I did too! I got a response back within 6 minutes, hehe. He suggested two places for dinner and he said I can decide between those two. I remember looking up those places and the description had the word “upscale” and I FREAKED OUT. HAHAHA.
Usually, my first dates are in the afternoon at coffee shops or ice cream, because if I’m not interested, I can just say “oh, I have to go back to work” or “I have class so I should leave soon” LOL. But when he told me that he’ll check the reservation, even the word “reservation” freaked me out. There was a pretty high chance of me bailing and flaking on him even though I was the one that asked him out. I even did a poll on Instagram asking if I should go out that night. My friends even placed bets on me saying I was going to bail.
Anyways, we planned on going out for dinner that following Saturday. On the way to dinner, I told my Uber driver everything and asked if I should bail HAHAHA. The Uber driver said that a pretty girl like me probably made his day with that email. (Which, he did tell me that later in our date). I remember freaking out since this guy was a lot older than me and just felt like I was too immature for him. At dinner, the waiter asked me what I wanted to drink and if you know me in real life, you would know that I know nothing about alcoholic drinks. They all taste the same to me: burning fire down my throat. So I remember just stuttering and being utterly embarrassed, but it’s okay.
I told him that I was a Mathematics and Communication major and that I can speak both Vietnamese and Mandarin. He asked me what I was planning on doing after college, I jokingly said that I was going to be a trophy wife, duh! Haha, he laughed so it’s safe to say that I’m pretty funny. After dinner, we walked around the area and just explored. He was leading the direction on where we were walking and he jokingly said, “oh don’t worry, I’m not taking us to the coffee shop.” I remember this being so funny and the way he said it too haha. We sat down on a bench at some park and we just talked. I leaned in for a kiss because obvs, I’m the dominant one in this relationship since I’ve made the first move on pretty much everything. Haha just kidding… Well, half kidding.
Long story short, he was pretty cute and everything went well but I don’t think anything will happen to be honest. I think we’re just both really busy. So for me, I don’t think I’m in the right state of mind for a relationship right now. We’ll just play everything by ear.
*Disclaimer: No one should go on a date with me otherwise you’ll end up on my blog, haha.
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