This story has been lurking on my mind recently but I’ve just been pushing it back for two reasons: I’m crazy and everyone who reads this will think I’m crazy too. If there was ever a chance that this boy and I would ever end up happily ever after, then I would most likely never write about this. However, I have come to the terms that this boy and I will never be together. Thus, this amazing yet embarrassing storytime… If you did not know, I am BOY CRAZY. Well, at least I was about half a year ago. I might still be boy crazy but I just don’t have time for a boy right now. Also, not going to lie, I still have PTSD from my last relationship lol.
The Boy I Thought Was The One
Let me tell you all about this gorgeous boy who I have shaped into this perfect guy for me in my mind. It all started out on this date. If you have read Dates with Demi: The One I Met at the Coffee Shop, then you know the deets. If you have not, let me give you a quick rundown. This guy was a regular at a coffee shop and so was I. He was extremely cute and had a start-up company. Fast forward, he moved to New York. Sad, I know.
In addition, that story was very vague. Why? Because I knew there were people who followed me on social media that also knew him – in other words, the baristas at our mutual coffee shop! Oops. Well, it’s been a while since my blog post and things have changed. I stopped going to that coffee shop and most of the baristas there now don’t know who he is.
Anyways, the guy I met at the coffee shop was cute, he was tall, he was funny. He was 7 years older than me, which WAS THE PERFECT AGE GAP. I can already hear the wedding bells. He was motivated, ambitious, UGH no words could perfectly describe him. (I can just imagine my best friend Mia shaking her head at this if she was reading it. I know, I know.) I wanted someone with a similar mindset to me. Someone who understands my work ethic and my passion for things. Based on our conversations, it seemed like he did lol.
Chief of Technology Officer
After our little date, his Chief of Technology Officer followed me on Instagram. Wow. Obviously, he has talked to his team about me, right? But… Was it good things or was it bad things? She was so annoying OR she’s so clingy. Who knows. The world will never know. I requested to follow his CTO back, but he never accepted it – didn’t decline either because I noticed that he was still watching my Instagram stories so he was fairly active on social media.
Hmm. Maybe the CTO just happened to follow me and there was no correlation? On my Instagram story, I decided to post a photo of my laptop cover, which had a sticker of the company. IF he did not know who I was, he would respond to the story with something along the lines of “oh hey, I am the CTO, how did you hear about the company, etc” but nope. He saw the story and did not say anything. I went ahead and messaged him asking why I can’t follow him when he’s following me. He read it but never replied. Weird. Eventually about 2 months of following me, he finally unfollowed.
The coffee shop guy moved to New York around mid-May. Why was I so fascinated by this guy? Back in August, I went to go get a palm reading for a bachelorette party. The psychic told me that I have met ‘the one.’ Oh my. Who could it be! Tell me more.
The psychic said that I’ve found the right person but somehow didn’t connect properly and apparently I can sense that too. It’s someone whom I already met and had a strong connection with; however, our path did not line up. It is not someone who lives near me and is always traveling. We will reconnect in 2 years.
If you want to read the rest of the palm reading experience, I have a few on my blog: my first one, my second one, and my third one. This one was my most recent one, so my third one. Anyways, so obviously, I thought it was the guy from the coffee shop. EVERY description fits. He was always traveling for work when he did reside in Arizona.
Labor Day Weekend
Comes Labor Day weekend, he texted me a week in advance to let me know that he was visiting Arizona. I was ecstatic. I was so excited to see him. (Lol I am so embarrassed right now as I’m writing about this, but we’re all crazy in our own ways ok). I saw him the first night he was in Arizona, he told me that I was the first person he saw beside his family. Awe, I thought to myself. How sweet. We talked about me visiting New York early next month in October for my birthday. He was totally up for it. He said he currently has an air mattress in his little studio apartment and will try to get an actual mattress before I come to visit.
The whole week he was here, I saw him a total of 3 times. The first time over at my apartment. The second time at our mutual coffee shop (it was a coincidence). The third time at my apartment, again… We were supposed to meet again the night before he left, but he never came over. He went out to happy hour with his fraternity brothers – oh, did I mention that he was president of his fraternity organization? Wow, what a hunk. I like my men in executive positions, lol jk. He was supposed to come over for dinner at my place after happy hour with his friends but never did.
I don’t want to admit it, but I was stood up.
I was upset. Actually, I was far worse than upset. I basically rearranged my schedule for this boy. I was crying non-stop. It was 11 pm, Mia and her husband, Mahrad, came over to pick me up and take me out to Buffalo Wild Wings. We downloaded Tinder on my phone and Mahrad was basically trolling guys on Tinder on my behalf. I’m so thankful for my friends who always know how to cheer me up. This will be one of the moments I will never forget and keep dear to my heart.
The coffee shop guy left back to New York the next morning, and I never heard back from him. Two weeks later, I texted him asking if I would still be able to visit him. You would think I have learned my lesson at this point that he isn’t the one after being stood up, right? Oh no. If I want something, you bet that I’m going to try to get it. I am very persistent, lol. Probably not a good thing in this case.
He texted back saying that his parents are going to visit him during that weekend, so it might cut into our time. He also hesitates for me to come out to New York to have me watch him work. He said it’s not that he doesn’t want to see me but the rest of the year is his sink or swim moment for the company. No worries, I told him. I completely understand. To be honest, I wasn’t surprised. Oh well. Fast forward to my birthday, I got a text from him saying happy birthday. Just thought it was sweet that he remembered lol. I guess that was the end of it.
Can you believe that it took me so long to finally accept that maybe the psychic reading was just merely for entertainment!? I guess you can’t believe everything a psychic tells you. Here’s a quick timeline if you’re a little confused or lost:
April: Date with the Coffee Shop Guy
May: Coffee Shop Guy moved to New York
August: Psychic Reading
September: Coffee Shop Guy visits Arizona for a week
October: My Birthday Text
WOW. I spent roughly half a year shutting down every guy that has crossed my path because of this guy whom I thought was the one. Maybe he is the one? Nah. I hope Mia is proud of me for finally ditching this whole ordeal. I can’t imagine how annoying I must have been coming up with every insane reason and excuse for the way he has treated me.
Why the change of heart, Demi? What exactly happened that took me out of this fantasy world? It’s called spending too much time with my family who showers me with compliments, which made me realized, wow. I am a queen lol.
Know Your Worth
Listen, babes. Do not let anyone stand you up and do not justify a reason for them. I can’t wait until the day I find my Prince Charming, but in the meantime, I am going to work on myself. My dad told me that people my age should be focusing on how to make money and securing a future ahead for them instead of finding love. If someone likes you, they will find every reason to be with you. You think to yourself, maybe it was the right person but wrong time? Maybe! But that doesn’t mean you should stop your life because of that.
When you put aside the things you love doing and start accommodating someone else’s schedule, you lose your rhythm. Basically, you lose a sense of who you are and become needy. I know that there are some of you out there who are going to read this and probably think I’m a psychopath. It’s whatever. The only people I really care about nowadays are my close friends and family.
To The Coffee Shop Guy
If you ever read this, then oh dear. I’m not going to say sorry for writing about you, because I know this blog post is gonna be a hit and is going to bring in a lot of traffic haha. You probably think I’m delusional but it’s okay. Wish you and your company the best. You can surely go back to the coffee shop if you’re ever in town without fear of bumping into me.
P.S. If you personally know him, please do not show him this blog post. I’m already embarrassed enough sharing this to the public, but I will be utterly petrified if he knows about it too haha.