We’ve all been there: you’re swiping on Tinder and you see this guy. Should I swipe left? Should I swipe right? He SEEMS nice so you decide, why not? It doesn’t hurt to give it a shot. You swipe right and ding ding ding! It’s a match. Welcome to the second episode of Dates with Demi!
Tinder Date: The Scrub
Ahhhh, where should I even begin with this? This was back around September 2018. He seemed cute in his Tinder profile picture. The thing that made me swipe yes on him was the fact that he was ranked one of the top players in the country for Fortnite (or something like that). I thought, oh so cool, I wonder if he’s lying. After we matched, I asked him for proof. Maybe he can play with my brothers since they all love Fortnite, HAHAHA.
Anyways, over the span of the next two days, he kept asking me out to coffee or dinner. Of course, at the time I was really busy so we hadn’t made concrete plans yet. He would then say things like, “Demi! How are we supposed to fall in love if you don’t have time to meet me?” Uhh. Okay. He would always say things like that which made me scared because what is L O V E? LOL I get that he was joking around but I’m only a kid.
Fast forward to probably two days of talking on Snapchat (we didn’t exchange phone numbers lol), I decided to go to Postinos for dinner. When I got to Postinos, he asked me what I was doing and he said that he wanted to join me even though he said he already ate…
Okay, I thought to myself.
This is TOTALLY not awkward at all. I’m okay with going to dinner by myself. I don’t need company, especially if he is just going to be watching me eat, lol. He said he wasn’t going to be at Postinos for another half an hour and I should just order and not wait for him. To be honest, I had already placed my order, HAHA. I wouldn’t wait for anyone.
So here I am, sitting at the bar with my board of bruschetta and drinking a glass of Moscato. I seldom drink but I knew I needed a glass or two. He pulled up in this super modified 2-door Scion and I thought, oh dear, what did I get myself into? I saw him walking towards me. Oh shit, he’s tall. 6-feet something tall.
He sat down and we started talking. He told me that this was his first time leaving the house in a month… What??? Lol. He then asked me if I drove here since he saw that I had a glass of wine. I told him, yes but I didn’t live too far so walking home or calling an Uber wouldn’t be an issue. In addition, he also asked me if I lived by myself or if I live at home, etc.
Uhh. That’s a weird question – yes, I live by myself, BUT I ALSO HAVE A SECURITY CAMERA INSTALLED IN MY APARTMENT SO IF YOU TRY TO BREAK IN, I WILL KNOW. Just kidding.
Long story short, he noticed my wallet, my car keys, my shoes, and I have a one-bedroom apartment. He then asked, “If you don’t mind me asking, how much do you make? Or do you live off of your parents?”
What. In. The. World.
I WAS SHOCKED. HAHAHA. I was sitting there thinking, did no one tell this kid not to ask people how much they make? IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING? I was so surprised that I didn’t know what to do. I told him that I had an internship, work, and I run my own blog. BUT NO, I do not live off of my parents! He then had the audacity to tell me that he grew up in a different lifestyle than me. Excuse me? What do you know about my childhood?
My single mother raised my sister and I. Starting at the age of 7, I had to stay home by myself with my sister because we couldn’t afford childcare. I would be in fear every day that someone would know and call Child Protection Services. But that’s beside the point.
Of course, he didn’t know that. I wouldn’t expect him to but just the fact that he immediately assumed made me annoyed. He then told me that he hasn’t had a job in the past year. Just hearing about what I do and how ambitious I am, made him want to go back to work, lol. To sum things up, he lives at his friend’s parent’s house, doesn’t work, and play videos games all day. Honestly, I was so confused at this point.
I told him that it was getting late and past my bedtime.
I quickly paid for my food. He asked me if I needed a ride home, I said no thanks. I did not drink enough wine for this. He told me that he wanted to see me again on another date. Also no thanks.
After that, I went home, unmatched him on Tinder, and deleted him off my Snapchat. Best of luck to you, dude. This was just overall strange and I don’t think I would ever be able to date anyone who didn’t have the same mindset as me. I’m not looking to babysit or take care of someone lol.
Also, I don’t know about you all but I don’t think dating apps are for me. I have come to the conclusion that I would rather meet someone organically. Most of the matches and conversation on the dating apps end up nowhere. Maybe it’s just me and I’m the worse texter in the world. It’s so much easier talking to someone in person because you can read their body language. Does anyone else feel this way?
P.S. I have a boyfriend now. It’s a bit bittersweet because I won’t be able to go on dates anymore, so we will have to put Dates with Demi on a hold. Maybe he’ll let me go on dates with other boys just so I can blog about it, haha.