I know I’ve been M.I.A lately from my blog, but that’s because my blog has been on the backburner for a bit while I decide the new direction of my life. As much as I want to share pretty much everything regarding my life, I know there are some things where I have to keep to myself.
It’s so hard for me to find that line between what’s too personal to share and what’s okay to share.
I really don’t know what I’m doing with my blog, to be completely honest. Whenever people ask me, “what do you blog about?” I hesitate to answer. What exactly do I blog about? Mostly my boob job, sponsored content, and then boy stories. What am I trying to gain out of this? Honestly, to be able to look back in a couple of years and see my growth in not only my writing skills but perhaps my mindset on things.
Here’s a couple of life updates as of late.
Since school ended, I’ve been traveling a lot. I’ve been to New York twice and will be going again in roughly 2 weeks for my mom’s birthday. I also got to travel to San Francisco as well with my friend, Maggie. It was a pretty fun experience.
Besides traveling, I got a raise at work. At first, I was a bit scared in asking for one. It took me roughly 3 weeks to ask my supervisor for a raise, and it took me so long was because I was scared of rejection. I felt like I was not worth the rate I was asking for. However, over the past couple of weeks, I learned that those who get what they want are the ones that ask for it. No one is going to hand you a raise. You have to put the idea in front of your supervisor.
While preparing to ask for my raise, I asked a couple of my friends for their advice and they told me to read the book “Never Split the Difference” by Christopher Voss. This book definitely opened my eyes about negotiating and I’ve never been so excited when talking to brands or companies regarding partnerships.
Why You Should Love “No”
One thing that the book talks about is saying or receiving “no”. To many of us, “no” oftentimes mean “end of discussion”, but it really opens the discussion to negotiating. When I was asking for my raise, I wanted to ask for a 16% increase at first. Instead, I went in asking for a 56% increase, which is CRAZY. I know I know. My work countered back with a 32% raise. I’m not saying to ask for the highest amount when going in for a raise but ask for something you think it’s worth for your time and effort.
Just a side note, I did not pull the 56% out of thin air. I took the time to figure out the other areas in my life and what it means to feel fulfilled in life. As I’m approaching the end of my undergrad career, I really have to think about where I’m spending my time towards.
I’m glad that they said no and gave me a counteroffer because then you know that 32% was the highest they’re willing to go. If they had agreed to my 56%, then I would have been upset because maybe I could have gone higher. You don’t know where that threshold lies.
Asking for a raise was nervewracking.
Also, I’m planning on doing a blog post on this book. That’s just how much I love it!
Another thing I’ve been trying to work on is taking more dance classes. I love taking classes that are for heels. I’ve had people jokingly said that I’ve been trying to learn how to strip – which I am not. Even though I’m not the best at it, haha, it makes me feel empowered and sexy.
Working on myself is a never-ending project.
I hope to never stop improving myself. I know I’m probably not the nicest (or humble) person but there’s always room for improvement.
Things I hope to do (or continue doing) for the rest of 2019:
- Taking a dance class at least once a week
- Work, work, work – seriously trying to be part of the C-Suite someday
- Get better grades in school
- Work on my blog more
- Set more realistic and obtainable goals
- Maybe workout? But definitely eat cleaner
I don’t even know. Currently, I feel unfulfilled with my life and trying to fix that, I’ve been spending money like crazy.
I love you all and thank you to everyone who read this blog post.